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a sister
9:10 pm on Monday, January 28, 2013
Hi Hollie,
I am pretty sure my brother was watching me undress. it kind of creeped me out. He was watching from behind a crack in the door. he is 19. I am 16. Totally freaked me out. He just walked away when I noticed him and said nothing. What should I do?
Hollie Gonzalez
4:11 pm on Tuesday, January 29, 2013
Hi,
I think this would creep me out too. What did you do? Did you at least yell at him? or scream? Did you say something to him? to your parents? I would deffinately bring it up to your parents. If you don't say something, then you are letting it happen again. Maybe its time for you to close and lock the door when you are dressing. You are at an age now where it is not ok to be naked or undressing in full view of anyone, even if it was your brother. It could just be a case of him being in the wrong place at the wrong time, but I doubt it. Let your parents know and have them talk to him about boundries and private space. And don't wait, do it today.
ANGELO RIXXO
4:16 pm on Tuesday, January 29, 2013
i THINK THE BROTHER MAY JUST BE CURIOUS.. BUT THE SISTER SHOULD ABSOLUTELY BE BEHIND CLOSED DOORS!
jenn water
4:52 pm on Tuesday, January 29, 2013
way creepy.. lock your doors sister
peverly
9:30 pm on Tuesday, January 29, 2013
I think sister should tell brother to back off, it sounds really like the brother may need help
jenn water
4:52 pm on Tuesday, January 29, 2013
Hi hollie,
Do you know any local good plumbers in our area. We had drain king and they pretty much screwed up and we need another new water heater. if you can recommend anyone i would appreciate it. thanks.
Hollie Gonzalez
9:37 pm on Tuesday, January 29, 2013
I know a great one... Torode Plumbing inTewksbury.. ask for Mike ...
BILLS DAD
3:24 pm on Wednesday, January 30, 2013
Hi Hollie,
My son wants to go to an IVY league college that we just can't afford. Money is very tight and we want him to go to a good college, but our budget won't allow it. Any suggestions? He applied for a scholarship, but didn't get it. Thanks.
Hollie Gonzalez
8:57 pm on Wednesday, January 30, 2013
Hi Bills dad,
In todays economy. alot of families are in the same boat. There are lots of good colleges out there, and kudos to your son for wanting to even go. What about financial aid? There are many different packages that schools offer now. You should ask your sons guidance councelor for help. Also, you said he applied for a scholarship, just one? You can apply for tons of them. Ask at his school. call the town hall, email everyone you know asking if they know any companies offering them. Lots of banks and credit unions offer them to their members and their kids. What about sports? Does he play any that might offer scholarships? Visit the library, they have alot of resources there too. Good Luck, I hope you get lots of help.
TomH
8:38 am on Thursday, January 31, 2013
Dad,
There are a TON of scholorships that go unclaimed every year. Talk to the guidance counselor about doing extensive research on scholorship money. Good luck!
Mary M
1:01 pm on Friday, February 1, 2013
Hi Hollie, my situation is similiar. my son wants to into the Marines. We have the means, but I don't waNT HIM TO GO. It is me. I am so scared. I have hidden all the correspondence that he has requested that came in the mail. I know that is bad, but I don't want something bad to happen to him. My son is the kid who always jumps in to protect someone, or stop a fight. I just love him so and don't want him to go into the military. I am so torn over this..what would you do?
Hollie Gonzalez
11:14 pm on Friday, February 1, 2013
Hi Mary
I understand your fear. I don't think that hiding your sons mail is a very good idea. You should be proud that your son wants to serve our country. He sound very proud and eager. I think if he finds out that you are keeping this from him, you will be in a worse situation. Talk to him and tell him your concerns and fears. Plan a visit to a military base and get a hands on idea of what to expect. I am sure many parents have been in a similiar situation and maybe there are support groups you could find on line or visit in person. I don't want my son to go either, but I would certainly be proud if he did. After all it is ultimately their decision.
stuck in the middle
3:06 pm on Friday, February 1, 2013
Hollie, How do you address an ignorant father in law. HE always comes over when my husband is not home and just stays for no apparent reason. He stinks up my bathroom, smells terrible,farts, eats our food and is usually in sweats and dirty tshirts. He has answered my phone, erased messages, and even disabled the DVR. He leaves dirty clothes here. It is driving me nuts. I told my mother in law and her response was, "better you than me!" Can you imagine. He is not lonely, he has friends and other family. We don't even have kids! It is just me. My husband works really long hours. My husband has tried to hint about coming over less, but it doesn't work. I would like to undress and put my bathrobe on at night, but feel uncomfortable. Stuck in my own home....help!
Hollie Gonzalez
11:25 pm on Friday, February 1, 2013
Well, you are really stuck! But your house your rules right? So do something about it. You have spoken to everyone but your father in law, so next time he comes over, have "the talk". Tell him that while you appreciate his company, he doesn't live there. Ask him to call ahead and tell him that you need your privacy. Maybe he just really enjoys your company. Tell him maybe you two can plan a lunch or trip to the mall or something. Ask him to not feel offended, tell him that you feel touched that he wants you to feel "safe" while his son is at work, but that you are a big girl and need your alone time. Assure him that you will call him if you need anything. He doesn't sound all that bad, he sounds kind of lonely. As for your mother in law, well, that doesn't suprise me.... good luck and I know what you mean about putting your bathrobe on and believe me, I know that is important. If all else fails, don't answer the door!
bon bon
9:21 pm on Saturday, February 2, 2013
Hi Hollie, My sons ice hockey coach is terrible. He is the worst i ever seen, He never does a thing to help or encourage the kids, just stays on the side and waits for it to be over, I am so jealous of the teams coaches and all the parents comment but none of us know what to do...
Hollie Gonzalez
9:47 am on Tuesday, February 5, 2013
Hi,
I know these sports programs are expensive, so for certain I would say something to if not the coach himself, but the league director or president. These kids need a leader and someone who motivates them. If it too daunting of a task for the coach, then he shouldn't be volunteering. I know alot of good coaches and this just gives them a bad name. Absolutely bring your concerns to someone. Why would you sit by and watch? That is taking a page from his playbook!