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tina t January 14, 2013 at 02:59 AM
Well, What are your thoughts on Home Goods closing? Another empty space in Tewksbury???
Marianne Disgusted January 14, 2013 at 01:21 PM
I am totally disguested with this town. Please dont let me see another dollar store, or another pizza store or another bank! We need a Target, or a Kohls How sad that the only decent store is leaving us.Pretty soon this will be a ghost town, cause the residents will be leavint too. IF theres no businesses here, that means higher taxes for us, and higher water rates and sewer rates. Some serious planning needs to be done.
Hollie Gonzalez January 14, 2013 at 03:39 PM
Hi Tina, It is terrible that another store is leaving. My thoughts are the same as most everyones I think. I think it is about time that the town steps up to the plate and plays some serious ball!
Hollie Gonzalez January 14, 2013 at 03:43 PM
Marianne, We are all disgusted. Any one of the stores that you mentioned would be awelcomed addition to this town. We have way too many pizza places, nail salons, dollar stores, and liquor stores, not to mention those ridiculous smoke shops. We need some retail stores to funnel money back into the community. Stores of those sizes will bring jobs and help the other stores around them. For example, how many people go to Terget, or Kohls, then stop for gas after? or a quick bite at McDonalds for the kids? Enough with the stores leaving, and the empty lots and businesses. Town of Tewksbury what are you doing about this?
donald g January 14, 2013 at 09:44 PM
hollie, what do you think is an appropriate was to tell someone that you are unhappy with the way they treat their kids? My girlfriend always keeps her kids busy with nintendo. it is her way to brush them off. they get no activity, no sports, just couch time. that is ok with her as long as they are out of her hair. Constantly watching tv. i mentioned this casually to her and she brushed it off. her kids are 11 and 13. wicked lazy!!!!
Mary Ellen Fernald January 14, 2013 at 09:51 PM
The new generation, sad.
Hollie Gonzalez January 15, 2013 at 03:16 AM
Hi Donald, I think that there is no appropriate way except to just have an open conversation with your girlfriend. Tell her that you are concerned. Do not make it a "parenting" issue, because she will most likely take offence right away. Tell her you are concerned about her kids health. Let her know that you are worried that they could become overweight and develope some serious health issues. You could show her some websites like nutrition.gov, or bluekids.org. You could ask her to do family activities, such as going to the park to play soccer, or roller blading, or something fun like snow tubing in Amesbury. When families do these things together they tend to have a more positive outcome. Video games and TV are fun in moderation, not all day. Ask her to set some more stricter guide lines. If the kids are not the sports type, even just getting them to read a book, or build a volcano, or model car or puzzle is better than absolute TV. Also, one other note you say how she treats her kids, I am responding only to the video game/tv aspect of that. If there are some other issues with the treatment of her kids, then maybe she needs professional help, or you need to consult a more authorized person.
ken rowe January 15, 2013 at 03:24 PM
Hollie, I work in a school and think your comment above was very good. I also think that was the right thing to say in your last sentance. However, I would like ask you a question. Do you think the help offered to our kids is widely available in our school systems?
Hollie Gonzalez January 16, 2013 at 02:18 AM
Hi Ken, I am not sure what you are asking me. What type of help? I am sure all schools have guidance councelors, but I haven't been in a school in a long time. You say you work in a school so I think you would know better than me and I feel if you are asking me then you think not. I would hope that schools nowadays have lots of resources for kids wether it be in the form of literature, posters, assemblys, or just taught in class. Also most kids have computers and phones that are capable of looking up just about anything, so I hope help as you put it is available.
done with men for now January 16, 2013 at 03:23 PM
Hi Hollie, I am recently out of a 9 year relationship that turned bad. By recently I mean 6 months. Everyone I know keeps trying to set me up on blind dates. I feel like I am at a happy point in my life now and don't want to get into anything serious now. I like having my freedom and being able to go out and do things I want, travel, sleep late, work late, eat in, eat out..etc.. Why does everyone want me to be hitched? What is a polite way to let people know I am just happy?
ducky ugly January 16, 2013 at 09:38 PM
Hello Hollie I am 17 and have terrible acne. I feel like everyone stares at my face. I wasn't even asked to Prom. I have a good body otherwise. What can I do. I have tried all sorts of creams, wipes and soaps. I feel so ugly. thanks
Hollie Gonzalez January 17, 2013 at 02:35 AM
Hello, Good for you for being happy! That is what you tell your friends and family. Tell them that you are happy for now and that you really appreciate all of them being so concerned for you. But let them know that this is a happy point in your life and that when you are ready for something more serious, and if you need help you will ask for it. But, I have to say, I am jealous of the whole sleep late, travel, etc..you say, so maybe they are too! Enjoy your happiness!
Hollie Gonzalez January 17, 2013 at 02:51 AM
Oh Ducky, You made me sad. People can be so mean. I used to have acne too, so I know what you mean about feeling like people stare at you. It too will pass. Alot of teenagers go through this phase. I am sure you are perfect. You know in todays world you don't always have to be the one to be asked to Prom, you can do the asking too. And if you don't want to do that, go with a group of people instead and have a great time anyway. Dance like no one is watching! As for the acne, have you tried going to a dermatologist? There are many available in the area. Also, I myself have used Proactiv and can vouch for its worth. It works really well, so that is another option. A couple of things to keep in mind. Acne can come from foods you eat, so stay away from greasy foods. Always wash ( and DRY) your face with a soft cotton cloth every morning and night. If you use makeup, try to use ones with out sulfates and that say dermatologist tested. Also, don't touch your face after you touch things and haven't washed your hands, and don't pick at your face, it will only make it worse. I hope this helps you. Remember, we are all beautiful.
psst January 17, 2013 at 08:02 PM
hollie, what do you think of the proposed gun shop going on rt 38 on the tewksbury wilmington line? Near the old Taylor Rental, just past Hobarts... I am frankly mad and think that this town is going to crap!
Hollie Gonzalez January 18, 2013 at 03:38 AM
I am not sure that it is really a gun shop. I know exactly where you are talking about though. I haven't seen any signs outside. But if it is a gun shop. I would not have a favorable liking towards it. I would like to see more upbeat places come to town. More retail shops (ones that don't sell guns).
wits end January 19, 2013 at 02:33 AM
Hollie can you help me please? My son is a brat. Yes, I said it. He constantly has tantrums, yells, swears and gives me and my husband a hard time. We try not to give him his way all the time but he freaks out. He has started even destroying the house, kicking doors, punching walls, breaking anything in site even his younger brothers toys. We can't even have people over because we are so embarrassed. I tried to get him to the doctors but he won't go. I called his school and they tell me he is not a problem there and they haven't noticed any outbursts or issues with him. What do I do. We have punished him, and taken away privelages, but nothing has seemed to work. My husband has even hit him ( in a fatherly way, please no rude comments about this) but nothing works. My son just acts like a twit. He hasn't always been that way. It started about 6 months ago. He is just 16 this month. I have asked other people and no one knows what I should do. My younger son has started coming in our room at night because he is having nightmares about his brother. I don't want to be one of those parents who didn't do something or turned a blind eye. What would Hollie do?
Hollie Gonzalez January 20, 2013 at 08:43 PM
Hello Wits end, You know I read this question a few times. I really don't think that I am the right person for you to come to with this. In my honest opinion I would tell you to seek professional help. I can understand your not wanting to be one of those parents who didn't do something, so you need to go to a trained profesional here. It sounds like something may have triggered his behavior recently. Was there an episode that happened lately? Did something happen in your family life? You really have to dig deep here and between you and your husband, you need to get him somewhere fast. Even if you have to trick him and tell him you are taking him to his favorite store or something. But at all costs, I wouldn't wait, especially where his behavior has escalated and there is another child in the house who is obviuosly affected by this.
Kerry January 23, 2013 at 12:45 AM
I have also recently heard rumors about a gun shop in Tewksbury. Have sent a question in to Bill G to see if he can get information out in the Patch about it to inform the public.....
Kerry January 25, 2013 at 07:18 PM
Ughhh - the Town Crier just confirmed there is a gun store (although called something else). JUST what this town needs......
Cecil Moore January 25, 2013 at 08:08 PM
Kerry, A new business comes to town and "ughhh" it doesn't meet your standards of approval? So based on your assessment of "just what this town needs" are we better off with more empty storefronts? Maybe we should establish a "Puritan & Ethical standards review board" who can approve just what this perfect pure God fearing town can have for business. Grow up and step down from your high horse. Business is what this town needs to maintain our schools, pay off our debts, provide police, fire, and municipal services. When the coffers are full, all debts have been paid, and we have extra dollars to waste, maybe then we can have the privelage , of which you have already assumed, to be selective of what business' we will allow. Until then, we have obligations which must be met.

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