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Hollie Gonzalez December 11, 2012 at 02:44 AM
Here is my first question of the week, thanks Hi Hollie, what do you think is the best way to ask out a man in my sons karate class? He is a single dad, and I a single mom...we laugh alot during the class and I would like to go somewhere adult with him..no kids,,thanks
Hollie Gonzalez December 11, 2012 at 02:48 AM
Hello, I think that the best way is to just come out and ask him. I assume that you don't want to play childish games at this point in your life. Jus say something simple like " Hey John, I have a babysitter lined up for Friday night, maybe you could do the same and we could go to that new Italian restaurant that just opened up?" See what happens. If he says yes, then go for it... If he says no, then move on.
joe p December 12, 2012 at 01:06 PM
Hi Hollie Any advice on what to get my partner of 30 years for Christmas? He has everything and says he wants nothing. I love suprising him, so I have to get a gift..thanks
beeswax December 12, 2012 at 08:26 PM
Hi Hollie, I have kept my mouth shut for a while and just read everyones comments, but it is about time I spoke. To the guy from your last weeks blog who is pretending to be a cop. Shame on you. Who does that? What a jerk. I think all those people who know who it is should absolutely tell someone. I mean there were all sorts of clues from different people. It seems like everyone knows him. It sounds like this could turn out to be a person with a serious illness or delusion!
Hollie Gonzalez December 13, 2012 at 01:38 AM
Hi Joe P. It is so nice to have someone in your life who is so content. Just think of the nice compliment he just paid you! I know how hard gift giving is after 10 years, I can't imagine 30! If you are trying to go for a suprise factor, how about a trip somewhere? It can be any type. For example you can go all out and book a trip to an exotic location like Puerto Rico, or Antigua. You can go mainland and book something in say beautiful Myrtle Beach or set up a road trip to North Conway. Stop at all the cool antique shops on the way. The North Conway Grand Hotel is really nice all year round. You could do a day get-away and go to Boston. Get tickets to Blue Man Group (so fun) and go to dinner at PF Changs. I don't know what you like to do with each other, but I'm sure you can come up with something fun. Happy Holidays!
Hollie Gonzalez December 13, 2012 at 01:43 AM
Beeswax, I have gotten more responses to this than any other blog question. I believe that anyone who poses as a cop is bad news. I also agree that the person should tell their neighbor the truth about the guy, for the sheer fact that he could very well be sick or need help. I think that quite few people know who it is, it certainly seems like it from the blog posts and it also seem like it has been going on for a while. Unfortunately my advice can only help so much, especially if I don't know the person in question.
india rhodes December 13, 2012 at 03:51 PM
Hollie, I am tired of all the hoopla about the holidays. I do not believe in Christmas and do not want my children to get caught up in the whole "big business" of it. I will let my kids develope their own beliefs as they get older. How do I make this work so that they do not fall for all the hype of a non-existant person and all the bologna that goes with it?
Hollie Gonzalez December 13, 2012 at 09:59 PM
Wow India, I guess you are entitled to your beliefs as is anyone. Raising your kids with or without believing in Santa and Christmas is certainly your choice. Stopping them from "falling for the hype", well not so sure that is possible. Happy holidays...
mike t December 14, 2012 at 01:15 AM
I agree with Hollie, what a stupid question to ask someone. What you may think is bologna to you, might mean all the world to another family or child. Having something to believe in gives people hope, not just Santa or Christmas, but healing, faith, love..there are so many things. Shame on you for not wanting your kids to believe.
Karyn December 14, 2012 at 06:51 AM
Amen to that.
fletcher December 14, 2012 at 09:54 PM
Boy Hollie, you are really good at this. I would have told India to go fly a kite!
fletcher December 14, 2012 at 09:55 PM
Do you have a special holiday treat that you like to make with your family?
Bill Gilman (Editor) December 14, 2012 at 10:58 PM
Hey guys easy on hammering other folks commenting and asking questions. Hollie opens her blog up to everyone and answers questions with grace. Let's respect that.
Hollie Gonzalez December 14, 2012 at 11:38 PM
Thanks Bill, I appreciate that. I really enjoy the blog and hope lots of other people do too! So, that being said, lets move on...
Hollie Gonzalez December 14, 2012 at 11:44 PM
Hi Fletcher, I have a great holiday treat, and it's not even mine! It is the most simple and the most fun! Gingerbread Houses! They are so easy to make and the amount of effort can range from fairly simple to extravagant. ( I believe this is even a competition in some places ) I was at a friends house this past weekend, and her husband made one with his boys, and it was beautiful. It really gives you time with your family and you can really let the kids, ( and some adults..James..) use their imagination. Best of all, you can buy the kit just about anywhere this time of the year, you can use what comes in it, or go off the norm and buy all kids of things to add to it, from gum drops to bubble tape, to cotton candy and peppermint candy canes. Have fun, that is the most important part. Shut the TV, play some Christmas Carols (106.7 has them on all day) and just plain enjoy your family.
tina tomarra December 15, 2012 at 04:57 PM
Hi Hollie, we just did this this past weekend. it made a mess! but i have to tell you, I will take that mess any day. Its those times in life that we really need to realize whats important, especially today.
Kerry December 16, 2012 at 01:06 PM
Agreed. If he is impersonating a police officer - WHY? It is not just creepy but illegal. Do not assume he has been reported, call the police department & tell someone. There are many REAL officers that would be able to help you out. You do not want to be among the "Oh - I knew he was off" AFTER he does something......

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